I’m Ace!

This post may have text considered borderline NSFW.

After much thought, I’ve come to the conclusion that I am happy with the label asexual. At its core, this word simply means I do not experience sexual attraction. I recommend reading the Overview page from Asexual Visibility and Education Network for a more verbose description. Those who have been around me on the internet me will probably know that I’ve been considering the possibility for some time.

To be totally honest, I came to be sure of the label through a short stint on the dating app Tinder. Due to some Covid-related circumstances, I have been extremely bored over the past few days, have been wanting to meet new people, and of course have been wanting to confirm whether or not I was sexually attracted to anyone. I was not. Granted, a lot of people on the app have extremely shallow profiles and the app encourages judging people purely on the basis of sexual attraction. I chose “Show Everyone” and swiped left (no) so many times that today got a screen that says “We’ve run out of potential matches in your area.”

Of course, that wasn’t the only thing that confirmed it for me, as I’ve suspected it for a while. Friends discussing sexual attraction and/or sex was always not interesting to me. I describe myself as a prude. I have always disliked participating in “horny” conversations. The prospect of “getting laid” doesn’t sound very exciting.

For the record, I do not believe myself to be aromantic, however I am very disinterested in relationships at this time. That part of my identity needs more time and exploration.